Oct 3, 2022Some of the things that grief has taught meTrigger warning — mentions of death, suicide, and mental health. Also one swear. Last Tuesday, I had my first panic attack in almost a year. One minute, I’m twirling the last strand of udon noodle onto my fork and turning to my partner, Scott, to say, ‘I’m so scared of…Grief And Loss6 min readGrief And Loss6 min read
Aug 30, 2021Twelve years of griefA vulture picking at a skeleton long wiped clean; grief still lingers, stuck in the crevices between my ribs, and the connective tissue between my knees and elbows. A cemetery full of wandering souls, my chest is bursting with the memories of those I’ve lost. I used to write poems…Relationships3 min readRelationships3 min read
Jun 30, 2021The dead don’t have birthdays.The dead don’t keep track of years, anniversaries or milestones. They don’t age, they don’t count the years that they were alive, and they’re not keeping track of the time they’ve been gone. That’s a job for the living. Do you know what else is a job for the living…Death4 min readDeath4 min read
May 13, 2021one in four.In the UK, one in four of us will experience some kind of mental health challenge every year. For some, it’ll be brief, perhaps a spell of anxiety as their everyday takes a tumble through the washing machine of life. For others, it’ll be an ongoing struggle to find some…Mental Health Awareness3 min readMental Health Awareness3 min read
Mar 31, 2021More than money: how to make well-rounded decisionsWhen you’re deciding what to buy, is the decision purely financial for you? Are you impulsive, quickly making a snap-judgement? Or do you take other values into account? Personally, I make decisions somewhat quickly and it’s very rarely based on finances, although they obviously factor in. For me, I feel…Decision Making5 min readDecision Making5 min read
Mar 11, 2021Sarah Everard has reminded us that the hardest part of being a woman is the fear.My sister is pregnant, and she’s having a baby girl. At first, she was elated, she had big plans and dreams for how this tiny bundle of joy would grow up to be proud of her body, to think and feel positively about who she is. My sister has so…Pregnancy4 min readPregnancy4 min read
Feb 5, 2021Just Start Now.If you’ve been asking yourself this question for a little while, then here’s the answer: you should start here. You should start now. Between a changing work situation, a home life in flux and a worldwide pandemic, the regular self doubt that I think we all feel, overpowered me and…Imposter Syndrome2 min readImposter Syndrome2 min read
Jan 4, 2021How to motivate yourself & live your best life in 2021It’s never too late, or in my case too early, to be whoever you want to be. There’s no time limit. Start whenever you want. You can change or stay the same. There are no rules to this thing. We can make the best or the worst of it. I…New Year Resolution6 min readNew Year Resolution6 min read
Dec 30, 2020The most special occasion is now.When I was eighteen, one of my oldest friends died. I’d known Jamie since primary school and suddenly, he was gone. He was epileptic and he’d had a seizure, hitting his head and dying. Just like that. He was just gone. I was already sad, lost and confused but losing…Relationships3 min readRelationships3 min read
Dec 13, 20202020: the year my Father-in-Law almost didn’t get a Christmas present‘Well, my dad just won’t get a Christmas present and that’s fine, that’s on me.’ Scott, my partner, is prone to big, sweeping dramatic statements. This statement about his dad not getting a Christmas present this year is one I’ve heard before, in fact, this is the third Christmas in…Christmas2 min readChristmas2 min read
